http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/index/ en Info@EspositoInstitute.com Copyright 2008 2008-03-20T16:53:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/welcome/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/welcome/#When:16:53:00Z Entrepreneurial Women and High-Achievers! Executive Coaching Olympic athletes hire a coach to attain their next level of mastery and so do high-achievers. My clients understand that to increase business success and personal fulfillment, they must continually upgrade their inner world.   Coaching Topics 1. Identify and develop your unique God-given gifts. 2. Enjoy fulfilling work that is an expression of your spirit, soul, and core values. 3. Eliminate self-defeating behaviors that stop your success. 4. Improve your health, reduce stress, and maintain life-work balance. 5. Maximize success through healthy professional relationships. 6. Enjoy intimate relationships, e.g., marriage, dating, parenting. 7. Polish your communication and conflict management skills. 8. Develop creativity to maximize your prosperity and happiness. 9. Manage difficult emotions like anger, fear, anxiety, or depression. 10. Increase your ability to be intimate with God. Who are my clients?  Seventy-five percent are females between 39-60 years of age. Most are in mid-life transition, examining their careers and personal life. They often ask the question, "Now that I am financially successful, what will it take to live a truly fulfilling life?"  They want to develop deeply meaningful intimate relationships. They want to build high-functioning teams. They want to mentor others, and make their greatest contribution to the world. I welcome couples and male clients with similar values. What makes Benita’s coaching so effective?  Read this. Are you ready for coaching?   Take this self-test.  "Vocation: the place where your deep gladness meets the world’s deep need."  -Frederick Buechner Click here for Credentials and Benita Esposito-Soltys’ Story. 2008-03-20T16:53:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/benitas_story/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/benitas_story/#When:15:46:00Z Credentials After earning a master’s degree in clinical psychology, I worked in two private mental health agencies in Iowa and Missouri facilitating out-patient psychotherapy and adult education. I managed a community organization program, developed public relations and marketing campaigns, and started an employee assistance program. Having high autonomy needs, 7 years after earning my master’s degree, I decided to open my own business. I opted out of the licensed psychology umbrella so I am no longer a psychotherapist. I have maintained a private practice for 2 decades providing personal executive coaching and human potential training to high-achievers and entrepreneurs. My Giftings.  I am a bridge for successful people to combine the strength of their intellect, the compassion of their heart, and the wisdom of their spirit. There is a similar pattern among high-achievers and I can spot it so my clients make rapid progress. I can see when my clients are about to make personal or business decisions that will generate pain, and I can steer them away from difficulties. I can help them see their defensive coping mechanisms, and coach them to eliminate blocks and learn effective life skills. I can easily detect emotional blockages and limiting beliefs that hinder a person’s health, their relationships, their relationship with God, and their success. As an ambassador for God, I often hear the voice of the Holy Spirit telling me what to say to my clients and His healing love flows through me. I frequently experience energy rushes in my body and that means that truth is being spoken by my clients or by me. I often see an entire life pattern connected with a presenting issue, and when I coach clients to address the root of the problem, they enjoy transformation quickly. All the credit for healing and transformation goes to God. Benita A. Esposito-Soltys’ Story As a teenager, I was fascinated with the miracles of Jesus. When he promised us, “You can do the things I do and more,” I took Him seriously.  I wanted to lead a Christ-like life, and I wanted to help other people learn about their true identity in Christ. As a child and young adult, I found myself finishing other people’s sentences because it was so easy for me to know what they were thinking and feeling. Later I came to understand that this is a gift of empathy and is common among highly sensitive people. I experienced a lot of emotional anguish as a young adult. I could empathically feel the pain in my family, and I absorbed it while doing my best to be the peace-maker. I unconsciously thought that if I could get them to calm down, I would feel more peace. That did not work, and it was not until my 20’s that I started doing my own inner work instead of trying to get everyone else to change to make me happy. I was anxious, worried or depressed most of the time although I did not show it. I learned how to project a successful appearance at an early age. Like most families, mine was not trained to manage emotions or communicate in healthy ways to resolve conflicts. The resulting stress tore me up but I never showed it. I tried to cope by being a high-achiever and getting good grades. Chronic pain and fatigue plagued me from childhood.  In my 30’s and 40’s, I realized that I was unconsciously driven to succeed because I yearned for my father’s love. I thought he would give me recognition if I excelled. I never told him that because I was too scared to tell him, so he never knew until much later after I had done lots of healing. There was an unwritten family rule to not talk to dad about our feelings. Like many men of his era, he believed he was being a good father and husband by being stoic, responsible and providing for the family. He did not know how to communicate from his heart until late in life. I dove into my inner healing starting in my mid 20’s after I completed my master’s degree. I had the great benefit of two teachers. (If you have the opportunity to develop a close relationship with a teacher, I highly recommend it because it will be one of the most memorable experiences of your life.) I wanted to learn how to develop healthy relationships, communicate and resolve conflicts. I wanted to learn how to stop being codependent and heal at depth. I wanted to develop my gifts as a mature woman.  I needed to learn how to feel my emotions, reduce my stress and care for my body instead of over-work to prove my self-worth. After much deep work with my teachers, I summoned enough courage to speak directly to my dad about the emptiness I experienced in relationship with him. That was the scariest thing I had ever done in my life. I realized that if I did not take responsibility for creating the intimacy that I wanted with him, it would never happen. Much to my joy, he listened attentively and compassionately. Every time I talked to him after that, he grew a little more open, a little softer, and a little more expressive of his affection for me. For that I will be eternally grateful. When he died in 2005, we were at peace with each other and bonded. I thank God every day for this healing in our relationship. The emptiness I experienced in relationship to my father, my pain, and my extreme sensitivity became the unconscious motivation for excelling in my career. I have come to realize that the hidden insecurity stemmed from an under-developed relationship with God. I was looking in all the wrong places for love: affirmations from men, women, and career success. The Fruits of My Journey When I become emotionally triggered, I remember to take my pain to The Father. I ask for His love to pour into me and heal me.  I ask for insight. I can feel and manage my emotions while I think clearly and stay grounded in my body. I can empathize with people and see their point of view even when it opposes my own, and maintain my center. I no longer see uncomfortable emotions as my enemies to be eliminated in order for me to be OK. I have developed compassion for myself and others, and eliminated lots of judgment. My own deep inner healing helps me be able to stay present when I coach clients with intense emotions. I teach them how to manage their emotions, take responsibility for them, and connect with God. It takes courage to enter the heart of a scary emotion, explore the root of it, and stay fully connected with the Father. This is the level of mastery that I experience. Time and time again, I have found that going into the midst of the emotional catharsis opens the doorway to divine revelation, instantaneous insight and healing. There comes a time when words cannot take us into pure experience and we have to set aside our intellect. My life is a testament to the purposeful use of suffering.  Without it, I would not have developed such a close relationship with God.  Day by day I learn more about my true identity in Christ, and I learn how to work with Spirit to be prosperous. Depression, fear and anxiety no longer derail me for very long. I teach others how they, too, can diminish their stress and experience a fulfilling life rooted in the relationship with God. I have learned how to eliminate workaholism and take good care of my health. Therefore, I can coach my clients to create balance in their lives. I coach my clients to know their intrinsic worth and value in God, which is entirely independent of their performance.  I walk my talk most of the time. I know I’m not perfect, and that is no longer a requirement for inner peace.  I also like to grow because it is fun to experience greater levels of mastery, and sometimes that requires no pain at all! Just fun! 2007-11-10T15:46:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/press_kit/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/press_kit/#When:20:41:00Z      Coming Soon!         2007-11-09T20:41:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/contact_us/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/contact_us/#When:15:21:00Z High-achievers, we want to help you create the most fulfilling personal and professional life. Please tell us your interests in the “Select Desired Services” box below. Feel free to write us with your questions or comments, and we will respond to you as soon as possible. Thank you for your interest. Phone us at 770.998.6642 (Eastern time zone, USA) Email us at Info@EspositoInstitute.com * Indicates required fields   2007-11-09T15:21:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/resource_links/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/resource_links/#When:14:59:00Z Please review some of our favorite sites. Plumbline Ministries. Arthur Burk. http://www.plumblineministries.com/ Transformational Business Coaching. Jim Alvilhiera. http://www.tbcoaching.com/ The Highly Sensitive Person. Elaine Aron. http://hsperson.com/   Music to Improve Relaxation. Research by Dr. Lee R. Bartel. Compositions by Daniel May. Ken Soltys Ministries. Music. kensoltys.com     2007-11-09T14:59:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/services_corp_training_formats/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/services_corp_training_formats/#When:14:52:00Z Formats for Learning On-site training and team building Off-site intensive retreats in the beauty of Nature Tele-seminars Relaxation and stress management CDs. Articles 2007-11-09T14:52:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/services_how_we_help/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/services_how_we_help/#When:14:45:00Z Self-Awareness Defining Values, Mission and Purpose Values-Based decision-making skills Eliminating self-sabotage Managing Difficult Emotions How to Transform Emotional Pain Increasing Self-Confidence and Self-esteem Managing Change Innovation Prosperity Business and Personal Relationships Team Building  Communication Skills Conflict Resolution Skills Trust Building Negotiation for win-win Solutions Defining Values, Mission and Purpose Health and Well-Being Stress Management Relaxation Skills Balancing Personal & Professional Life Eliminating Unconscious Self-Sabotage   2007-11-09T14:45:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/exec_formats/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/exec_formats/#When:14:38:00Z Formats for Learning Private sessions for individuals and couples Telephone sessions and teleseminars Corporate training and team building Workshops for the general public Intensive Retreats for individuals, corporations and couples Relaxation and stress management CDs. Writings: Articles and prose poems Forthcoming books 2007-11-09T14:38:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/our_uniqueness/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/our_uniqueness/#When:18:45:00Z Benita A. Esposito-Soltys, M.A., is an intuitive visionary who easily spots people’s potential along with those pesky self-defeating patterns so clients reap efficient results. When people enter Benita’s presence, they feel safe ... safe to open, safe to explore, safe to heal, safe to risk, and safe to thrive. Several other factors combine for highly effective coaching. Benita incorporates wholistic methods that are far superior to traditional cognitive methods alone. The Holy Spirit guides the coaching. In secular terms, Benita calls this her intuition. She feels sensations in her body that mirror what her clients feel physically and emotionally. For those who want to make fast progress, and who want be known and cherished at a deep level, this gift is invaluable. Benita earned a master’s degree in psychology, which she combines with spirituality, sociology and business success principles. With 3 decades of professional experience and her own deep inner work, Benita offers clients a vast array of coaching knowledge.   “I have been astounded these past fifteen months, when I have brought Benita personal problems to resolve from A to Z, at how she always comes up with yet another unique approach to working with me. I’m amazed at how her approaches always work.” - L. B., Technical Writer Benita has a keen ability to understand individual differences and to tailor coaching to meet client’s exact needs.  The compassionate and rigorous relationship Benita builds with her clients is the life-giving connection through which God works. Benita coaches people in beautiful Nature settings which promote transformation in an easy, comforting manner. Clients appreciate Benita’s courage to tell the truth, her transparency, and her willingness to take risks. They most often describe Benita as direct, sensitive, deep, compassionate and calm. Specialties include (1) Personal and professional relationships (2) Transforming emotional wounding and unconscious blocks (3) Authentic prosperity (4) Self-awareness and personal mastery, which includes the identification of one’s God-given gifts. Click here to read Benita A. Esposito’s Story. 2007-11-08T18:45:00-05:00 http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/services/ http://www.espositoinstitute.com/index.php/site/services/#When:20:01:00Z Executive Coaching and Corporate Training Topics I listen to your needs with logic and intuition, and design a program tailored for you. You can receive coaching and instruction in these areas: 1. Professional Relationships Communication Skills Conflict Resolution Skills  Assertiveness Skills                     Trust Building                                   Managing Difficult Emotions Handling Difficult Relationships Negotiation Skills for Wise Solutions Team Building for Organizations Understanding Other’s Styles Respecting Individual Differences   2. Personal Relationships Marriage Enrichment How to Stop a Divorce How to Stop Losing Your Self while in Relationship Pre-marital Relationship coaching   3. Relationship with Self - Personal Mastery Define and develop your God-given gifts Transform Emotional Pain that stops Success Define your Core Values, Mission and Purpose                         Take Risks to be True to your Core Values Balance your Personal & Professional Life Increase your Self-Confidence and Self-esteem Manage Change and Life Transitions Identify Unconscious Projections Manage The Dark Night of the Soul Grow with Mid-life Crisis Issues Develop an Intimate Relationship between the Spirit and Soul Adjust to being Single after a Marriage Stop Co-dependence & Victimization                 Set Energetic Boundaries Experience Authentic Empowerment with Humility   4. Innovation and Creating Values Clarification  Creation Process Decision-making skills Listening for God’s Guidance Developing your Intuition Eliminating Self-defeating Blocks Leaving Your Unique Legacy to Society   5. Mind-Body-Emotional-Spiritual Healing Relaxation Skills Stress Management Healing Grief and Loss Healing Abuse and Trauma Sub-personality dialogue                   Journaling Inner Healing                        Strengthen your Relationship with God  2007-11-02T20:01:00-05:00